Why shouldn’t you feel happy?

A big worry that eats me these days is that people feel that they aren’t supposed to feel happy.

Everyone has a past and everybody makes mistake but that doesn’t mean that one loses their entitlement to happiness. The issue with us is that we allow Guilt to consume us to such an extent that even the thought of being happy makes us retrace our steps. We start questioning ourselves: Did I really deserve this happiness?

SO LET ME MAKE YOU HAPPY TODAY!

I will take you through certain steps which you must promise me that you will follow. Once done, I will ask you about your Happiness Index (HI). You will respond on how high is your HI at that time. Choices are: Very Low, Low, Okay, High, Very High.

Ready? Alright.

Step 1. Eliminate everyone and everything for one meal. Take yourself out to breakfast, lunch, brunch, dinner, whichever suits you. While you are out on a date with yourself, ask yourself these:

Hi, how are you?

How have you been?

Where have you been?

What is going on in your life?

How was your day?

Answer all these questions. Go on, no one will judge. Remember you eliminated everyone.

I’ll tell you what I told me: Read the italics below

Hi, how are you?

Hi, I am alright.

How have you been?

I have been doing okay. Just dealing with a few uncertainties.

Where have you been?

I am not sure tbh. Lately, I have been taking trips to find Me.

What is going on in your life?

A lot and then again, almost nothing. Funny, right? That is the best way I could put it.

How was your day?

It was interesting. Ups and downs along the way like a rollercoaster ride.

Step 2. Now once you have had spent some quality time with yourself, allow your passion to exist. Forget whatever is keeping you away from your passion, just pick it up and go with it. Don’t worry, I am just asking you to do it for like 15-20 mins. That isn’t too much to ask.

*15-20 mins later*

Do I see a smile? (Let me know)

Step 3. Now allow two of your closest people to exist. Remove the label known as relation. They can be anyone from anywhere, of any age. Basically two people with whom you feel the most comfortable.

Got them? Good.

Ask them the same questions you had asked yourself in Step 1. Listen closely to what they have to say. Just listen to them and if and only if they ask for your opinion, share your mind.

Penultimate Step: How is it going? Let me know about it. I hope it is a bit better than what you had started with.

Step 4. Now slowly allow yourself to fit into this world. Use the things you learned about in Steps 1 through 3 and understand that everyone is a puzzle in themselves. You are not to fit in someone else’s story but to put into place different pieces of your own story.

Also understand that not all pieces are the same. One of them is also called being happy. Yes, you read it write. A piece of your own puzzle is called being happy.

Dear Reader, I know it hasn’t been easy. Degree of toughness varies, they say, but then again, degree of vulnerability also varies. The fact that you are still in it only echoes one thing: You want to complete your story (correct me if I am wrong). While you have been more than resourceful in arranging all the harsh and tough pieces of your life, I believe you have been neglecting or better yet avoiding being happy.

Just know that You, Me, the person next to you, the last person you saw smiling, all of us are trying to make out what our puzzle looks like and honestly, most of us aren’t sure.

It is just a puzzle. Relax. You just need to Be Happy (How?)

Follow Steps 1, 2, & 3. Rest everything is just for sustenance.

Care to tell me about your HI? 🙂

No pressure 😀